HELLO MY NAME IS M. AS A FIRST TIME SPEEDDATER I ATTENDED YOUR ASIAN PERSUATION EVENT 12/3/12 I WAS SURPRISED NOBODY FROM (SPEED DATING COMPANY) ASKED ME IF I ENJOYED THE EVENT NEEDLESS, TO SAY I WAS DISAPOINTED FIRST I WAS TOLD BY (SPEED DATING COMPANY)TO BE AT THE EVENT 15 MINUTES EARLY BUT, THE EVENT STARTED ABOUT 1 HOUR LATE THEN, THERE WAS ONLY 13 WOMEN AND LIKE 16 MEN ALSO THIS EVENT WAS FOR PEOPLE 25-42 BUT ALOT OF THE WOMEN SEEM TO BE IN THEIR 50'S BEING THEY WERE ALL WRINKLED UP AND VERY OLD LOOKING ONLY 6 OUT OF THE 13 WOMEN APPEARED YOUNG FROM A RATING OF 1 T0 10 I WOULD GIVE THIS EVENT A 4
When she received the email my boss checked with me to see if I remembered the guy. I did because that night I sat with all of the guys on one of their breaks since there were 2 more men than women. This event did start late. All of them do and I make sure to tell all of our daters when they arrive that we will probably start late. However it was only about 25 minutes late, not an hour as he claimed. We had a number of women who texted to say they were running late and I didn't want to start without them. I told my boss that this guy seemed a little strange. He didn't seem to be making much of an effort with his appearance (which included slicked back, greasy hair) and socially he was awkward. I asked him if he had ever been speed dating before and he told me he hadn't. I then asked him how it was going and he told me that he would have to wait to answer that question until after he saw who he matched with. I told him about our New Years Eve party and other events that he had, but he told me that he wasn't really into the club scene and that's why he decided to try speed dating. At the end of the night he darted out of the event as soon as it was over.
Based on that information, she responded to him:
M,
I appreciate your feedback. Asking people to show up 10-15 minute early is
standard practice in the singles business with hopes that people will actually
be on time. Unfortunately, that very rarely happens and is obviously beyond
anyone's control. We're definitely not going to start an event on time if we're
missing the majority of people. And if you go to any singles event this is more
often than not, par for the course.
As for the age range of the women in attendance, I just did a quick
once-over and the female attendees registered for the event were in their
20's/30's with one woman that was 40. There were definitely not women in their
50's.
We guarantee a minimum of 10 dates per event. With 13 women and 16 men
(very rarely do you have an exact number of men and women) that would be
considered a good turn-out.
This is actually the first email I've received from someone that was
unhappy with the event. I've received 3 emails right after the event of 2 men
and one woman that wanted to share how pleased they were with the event.
I went ahead and looked to see how many matches the women in attendance
had, since based on your assessment of them being "wrinkled up and old" I would
expect to see very few men selecting women from the event as a match. On the
contrary, EVERY single woman in attendance had between 3-13 men select her as a
match.
I see you selected L, K, J, A, J, K, T,
L, W, N, and L as matches. That's 11 women you selected out of
13 in attendance. Interesting you would select almost 100% of the women in
attendance as a match and rate the event a "4".
I also see that none of the women in attendance selected you as a
match.
Based on this statistical assessment, my advice or response to your email
would be the following. Perhaps you should check out our "Tough Love" Speed
Dating event where if someone doesn't select you as a match you get to know the
reason why.
I would also suggest trying a different company as if you're not happy with
our service after selecting 11 out of 13 women as matches, you'll never be
satisfied with our events.
Lastly, I would strongly suggest that any correspondence you send to any
women you're looking to date in the on-line world not be in ALL CAPS.
Good luck,
A
Co-Founder
Decoding Dating Profiles: The Top 10 Guys You Want To Avoid
ANY GUY THAT WRITES HIS ENTIRE PROFILE IN ALL CAPS SHOULD BE AVOIDED AT ALL COSTS. I.E. "I`M JUST YOUR EVERY DAY PEOPLE AND WOULD LIKE TO MEET SOMEONE SEXY, AND DOWN TO EARTH." UH, CAPITAL "NO." IT'S AS IF THEY'RE OVER-COMPENSATING WITH LARGE FONT FOR THEIR SMALL INTELLECTUAL CAPACITY.
To which he responded:
A FEMALE DID SELECT ME AS A MATCH A J I DID NOT SELECT HER
AS A MATCH I ALSO SEEN OTHER GUYS ON THE INTERNET COMPLAINING ABOUT SPEEDDATING
COMPANIES AND WONDER IF SOME OF THE FEMALES ARE PAIDED MODELS WHO WORK TO KEEP
GETTING GUYS TO PAY FOR DATING SERVICES THERE HAVE BEEN OTHER DATING COMPANIES
WHO ALSO DO THIS SUCH AS MATCH
I DO NOT HAVE EXPERIENCE WITH SPEEDDATING AND DO NOT KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE
LIE ABOUT THERE AGE OR IF FEMALES ON THESE EVENTS ARE EVEN SERIOUS ABOUT DATING
BUT HAVE MET MANY WOMEN ON TELEPHONE CHATLINES WHO WERE SERIOUS ABOUT MEETING
AND DATING I JUST DID THIS SPEEDDATING AS A FIRST TIME TRY OUT I DID SELECT 11
0UT OF 13 FEMALES BECAUSE SINCE I ALREADY PAIDED AND ATTEND THIS EVENT I FELT
EVEN IF I WOULD BE FRIENDS WITH THEM WITH OUT DATING THEM
So were the women we had old and wrinkled or were they models?
Ultimately, I feel bad for the guy. Clearly the event didn't go as he hoped it would, but I think he needs to look more at himself instead of trying to blame us or the entire singles industry for his lack of success in the dating world.
